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Education
for Life:
Preparing Children to Meet the Challenges
by J. Donald Walters
Chapter Fourteen
The Tools of Maturity
An astronomer
scanning the heavens needs a mirror for his telescope that is clean
and ground accurately. A carpenter building a house needs tools that
are well made and well maintained. A jeweller dealing in precious
stones needs a scale sensitive enough to weigh small fractions of a
carat. In every department of life, the right tools are needed. In
this age of sophisticated technology, especially, great care must be
devoted to their development and maintenance.
It is a matter for
surprise, then, how little attention gets paid to the ultimate “tool,”
the one on which every human being relies: his own self, his body and
his brain.
The physical body,
if not treated sensitively and with proper awareness, can end up
becoming man’s own worst enemy. An ill body can obstruct every effort
of the will toward accomplishment. A brain that is clouded, unfocused,
or easily overwhelmed by emotional stress understands nothing clearly
no matter how excellent the material instruments a person uses.
Our modern school
system concentrates on imparting facts, but devotes far too little
attention to developing a student’s ability to absorb the
information he receives. It gives him the outer tools for
accomplishment, but never even suggests to him methods for developing
his powers of concentration, his memory, his ability to think clearly,
without which those tools are like a hammer and saw in the paws of a
cat.
In one of my
classes when I was schoolboy, if any student seemed unable to grasp
the point under discussion the teacher would inquire with jocular
solicitude, “What’s the matter, Jones [or Smith, or Robbins]? Are you
in love?” Strange to say, this was the only recognition the student
ever received of the possible importance of his emotions to the total
learning process.
Even in such basic
matters as diet, how much are our children taught? They are given (for
one example) what has come to be called “junk” food, high in sugar
content and low in nutritive value. Does no one ever tell them that
too much sugar clouds the mind, making it difficult to think clearly?
or that nutritious food will help them to feel better in all
departments of their lives? Fortunately, people are becoming
more conscious in these matters nowadays, though the great majority
are still either ignorant or indifferent to the discoveries being made
in this field.
Exercise
In matters of
physical exercise, children are invited to engage in violent sports
that will stand them in no useful stead later in life, and that in
some cases permanently injure their bodies. But how much attention is
paid to teaching them forms of exercise that will benefit them
throughout their lives?
Exercise should be
approached in the manner of a long distance runner, with clear
recognition given to the fact that the physical body may have to serve
its owner for another seventy, eighty, or more years, and ought not to
be treated as though the exercise it is getting now will end with
graduation.
A young friend of
mine, an excellent skier, used to enjoy making jumps that, because of
her skill, she survived splendidly, but that jarred every bone in her
body. Wisely, she abandoned the practice when her physician told her,
“If you go on like this, by the time you’re forty-five you’ll be
confined to a wheel chair.”
Children would soon
become bored, of course, if all the exercise they were permitted was a
daily trudge around the compound. I’m not recommending tiresome
exercise. Even walking and hiking, however, can be enjoyable when
pursued in the broad, open countryside, inhaling fresh air and
feasting the gaze on green fields and hills.
The will needs
challenges, too, if it is to grow strong. In this sense, certainly,
strenuous sports play a definitely useful role in education. What I am
pleading for, then, is the addition of common sense, a view to life’s
longer rhythms, and physical development and the sorts of exercise
that will stand the child in good stead later in life even if they
don’t make him the hero of an hour.
Here’s an example
of the importance of physical exercise: The other day my brain was
feeling foggy, no doubt from overwork. No amount of flogging it with
affirmations of energy could get it to stagger out into the sunlight
of clear thought. I left my desk, therefore, and jogged for ten
minutes on a trampoline. The difference, afterward, in my mental
clarity was amazing.
A steady routine of
exercise is important for everyone—exercise that doesn’t require a
football field and two teams to bludgeon one another into
semi-paralysis, but that is pleasant and even fun to engage in. This
habit should be inculcated in children, even in those with a greater
fondness for intellectual pursuits.
Good diet, right
exercise, regular exposure to sunlight and fresh air: These can
develop the body as a tool for the long-range efficiency of the whole
being.
The Emotions
Then there is the
question of the emotions. How many adults, what to speak of children,
recognize the difference between emotion and feeling? Very few.
And how many
children, consequently, are taught that calm, sensitive feeling is an
invaluable tool for the complete understanding of most subjects? Or
that turbulent feelings—that is to say, the emotions—and not
feeling per se prevent clear, objective understanding? Again,
very few.
Few children,
again, are taught the extent to which reason is guided by calm
feeling, but distorted by the emotions. And few are taught that by
developing calm feeling they will improve their understanding of
objective reality on every level.
Feeling, when it is
calm and refined, is essential both to truly objective and to mature
insight.
There are ways of
clarifying feeling, just as there are principles of logic (already
taught in the schools) for learning to reason correctly. Feeling can
be clarified, for instance, by learning how to distance feeling from
one’s personal likes and dislikes, withdrawing one’s awareness to a
calm center in the heart. Feeling can be clarified by directing the
heart’s energies upward to the brain, and thence to a point between
the eyebrows that was anciently identified as the seat of
concentration in the body. Clarity of feeling can be assisted by
calming the flow of energy in the spine, by means of certain breathing
exercises. These exercises are a priceless contribution of the science
of yoga to the general knowledge of the human race. It would be a
grave error to ignore them on the grounds of one’s unfamiliarity with
them.
Only by calm inner
feeling can a person know definitely the right course to take in any
action. Those who direct their lives from this deeper level of feeling
achieve levels of success that are never reached by people who limit
their quest for answers to the exercise of reason. Reason, indeed, if
unsupported by feeling, may point in hundreds of plausible directions
without offering certainty as to the rightness of any of them.
Children need to
learn how to react appropriately. This they can never do if
their reaction springs out of their subjective emotions. Considerable
training is needed to learn how to harness feeling and make it a
useful ally. What children are taught, instead, as they grow older, is
that feelings are inevitably obstacles to correct insight. The
scientific method is offered as a model. “If you want to see things
objectively,” they are told, “you must view everything in terms of
cold logic.” I remember a professor when I was in college who boasted,
jokingly, that x-rays had shown his heart to be smaller than normal.
This, to him, was a sign of intellectual objectivity, which he prized.
Ignored is the fact
that, usually, the greater the scientist, the more deeply he feels
his subject. Or that, as Einstein put it, the essence of true
scientific discovery is a sense of mystical awe.
Feeling can never
in any case be suppressed. Shove it out of sight at one point—where
you can at least see it and try to deal with it—and it will only pop
up at another, often a place where you least expect it. Many times,
when long-suppressed feelings have at last burst upon people’s
consciousness, those feelings have assumed terrible and unrecognizable
shapes. Sometimes they have actually incited to riot.
Right feeling is an
important tool for achieving maturity. It must be cultivated, and not
merely ignored, suppressed, or treated as something about which
nothing “reasonable” can be done.
Will Power
A third tool of
maturity is will power.
Every year,
hundreds of businesses are started, only a few of which ever succeed.
Are the rare success stories due only to “the luck of the draw”? Are
the businesses that fail merely victims of “negative statistics”? The
one thing that stands out in every success story is the extraordinary
will power it required.
The one trait which
all successful people have in common is that they can’t even imagine
saying, “I can’t.” If one method doesn’t work, they’ll try another,
and if not that, then still another. They’ll keep on trying until they
find something that does work.
How often people
lose courage after one or two half-hearted attempts! And how often
they imagine a job to be finished after they’ve only talked about it,
or outlined it on paper. How often, again, do people give up after
encountering a mere sprinkling of obstacles, offering the excuse, “It
wasn’t meant to be.”
Business colleges
fill their students’ brains with marketing techniques, organizational
charts, and secrets of profitable investment. They send graduates out
into the world in the belief that all this knowledge will be their
guarantee of success. How is it, the graduates wonder later on, that
so few of them make the grade?
Even more
incomprehensible to them is the large number of highly successful
business people whose training couldn’t compare with their own. How,
for example, did that steel tycoon earn his millions? Good heavens, he
never even finished grade school!
The answer is quite
simple: He stuck to it. He made things happen, instead of waiting for
circumstances to be just right for the application of principles he’d
learned in school from others.
No one can really
succeed in life who hasn’t a strong will power. Will power, then, is a
vital ingredient of maturity, and should be emphasized as such in the
schools. Techniques should be taught for developing it, and
opportunities explored for its expression.
The Intellect
The fourth, final,
tool of maturity is the intellect. One may say, “Here, at least, is
one faculty to which we need pay no special attention. Modern
education is already fully devoted to its development.”
Devoted, perhaps,
but not with sufficient awareness of what it takes to bring the
intellect to full development. For when intellect is treated as a
thing apart from the other three tools of maturity—body, feeling, and
will power—it grows like a poorly nourished and anemic plant. A plant
may grow tall and yet be weak, colorless, and fragile.
One weakness of the
intellect is, as we have seen, a tendency to soar up, up, and away
like a balloon into clouds of fascinating theory, while carelessly
discarding as unnecessary the weighty ballast of fact. A balanced
awareness of the material realities that are experienced first of all
through the physical body is necessary for the development of the
intellect to its full usefulness.
Another weakness of
the intellect is, as we have seen also, a tendency to substitute
theory for action—even to consider itself betrayed by cloddish
reminders of the very need for action. Regular, daily doses of will
power are necessary to prevent this weakness from degenerating into
mental paralysis.
A third weakness
is—and here is where feeling shows its importance—the
temptation of intellectuality to imagine that it is so clever that it
can actually create truths. There comes upon certain people of
exceptional intelligence a sort of Olympian delusion: the thought
that, by the power of reason alone, they can demonstrate any rational
conclusion they desire. Is it their wish to prove that black is white,
or white, black? No problem! They imagine themselves capable of
reasoning any truth into or out of existence, merely by the clever
manipulation of ideas.
We see here,
indeed, the danger of suppressing one’s feelings: They only rise
again, and again and again, as Michael Ende pointed out in The
Never-Ending Story, in the form of the most fantastic lies.
Paramhansa
Yogananda put it well when he wrote: “Reason is rightly guided only
when it acknowledges the inescapability of cosmic law”—that is to
say, the inescapability of what is.
Thus, the intellect
must be developed in constant reference to demonstrable truths. Webs
of logic finely spun out of nothing more substantial than an
intriguing fancy, or a quotation, must be referred again and again to
reality to see whether or not they really are true.
A further point is
that the intellect needs to be developed along useful lines. Of
what value, for example, a wonderful plan for battle that entails the
deployment of ten thousand troops, when the only men one has at his
disposal are a few foot-weary troops?
And what is the use
of a doctor exclaiming proudly, “The operation was a success!” when
the patient himself died peacefully on the operating table?
The intellect must
be developed, finally, in full recognition that it is merely a tool
wielded by the mind, but never itself fully in charge of the mind.
Like any tool, it can be used rightly or wrongly, depending on one’s
respect for other, higher, and forever immutable principles.
Conclusion
A human being, in
order to function fully and effectively in this world, needs to
develop in himself all four of these tools of maturity: 1) physical
energy and bodily self-control; 2) emotional calmness and expansive
feeling; 3) dynamic, persistent will power; and 4) a clear-sighted,
practical intellect. Remove any one of these aspects from the equation
and the equation itself becomes distorted. Each aspect depends for its
perfection on the other three.
A person of great
physical energy and control, but with undeveloped feeling, will power,
or intelligence, will be little more than a human animal, responding
to every stimulus on a purely instinctual level.
A person of
sensitively refined feelings, but underdeveloped in the other three
aspects of maturity, will too easily lose himself in hypochondria or
in other nameless fears.
A person, again, of
strong will power, but deficient in the other three tools of maturity,
may compensate for his physical weakness by developing a tyrannical
nature. Lack of emotional control may plunge him into violent rages
against anyone so presumptuous as to oppose him even on minor issues.
And an undeveloped intellect may lead him to commit actions that are
unbridled because never viewed in the light of calm introspection.
We have seen,
finally, the deficiency of the intellect when it is unsupported by the
other three “tools” of maturity.
An interesting
point is that these tools are best developed in sequence: bodily
awareness first, then sensitivity of feeling, then will power, and
last of all, intellect.
Feeling, for
example, needs grounding in a firm sense of physical reality if it is
really to inspire and uplift the child instead of causing him to run
maudlin. Will power, when developed without reference to both physical
energy and controlled or wisely directed emotions, can lead to
ruthlessness, or to fitful explosions of energy that serve no
practical purpose.
In teaching a
child, therefore, care should be taken not only to teach him the right
use of his body, feelings, will power, and intellect, but also to lead
him through their development in the proper sequence. Only by
understanding and respecting his nature as it is can he be helped to
achieve the equilibrium of true maturity.
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